The Music you will hear is a mix of the naval piping onboard, Last Post, Reveille and Sunset played by the Royal Marines. ../Ian Molyneux's Grave - a RM tribute..mp3

We know that many of you, particularly those in the submarine service, will wish to pay their respects at Ian's grave side.  Our dearest wish is that this website will encourage you to do so and that his memory will be maintained.



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The post code is

WN6 0BA

Be aware, especially after a long journey, that there are no public facilities in the area. However, just yards from  the cemetery gates, situated on a roundabout, there is a public house called the Boar's Head and its toilets are available to use!

By far, the best route to the cemetery is via Junction 27 from the M6. On this map, follow the A5209 into Standish and then turn right at the traffic lights onto the A49 heading for Wigan.

Eventually, you will come upon a roundabout, the first exit going off to a local road; the second to Wigan and the third, a 180 degree turn, puts you back heading for Standish from whence you have just travelled. You could have turned right off this road coming from Standish into the cemetery entrance, but the roundabout route gives you the opportunity to have a comfort stop at the pub and it adds but a few yards to your journey! If you are approaching from Wigan, you will arrive at the same roundabout with the same pub, and the first left turn after the pub into the cemetery.

After the pub stop-over, continue by leaving the pub car park and turning left, heading for Standish. After just a few yards, take the first  left into the outer entrance approach road to the cemetery and then continue through the gates into the cemetery proper. On your left you will see the office of the resident stone mason, and beyond it, the hard core large car parking area. You do not need to park in this area as the walk to most graves is a goodly distance especially in inclement weather.

Then, follow this little map to guide you to the approximate position of Ian's grave. Remember to take the first right hand turning at the end of the tall trees!


Gidlow Cemetery is a peaceful place set in  lush grounds without any signs of deprivation or vandalism one sees regrettably in so many cemetery's today. It is very dignified and fittingly so.  On first seeing the cemetery, one is taken aback by a 'sea' of black with uniform graves neatly laid and bedecked largely with black polished masonry with engravings of endearment in a warm golden colour. There can be little doubt that those laid here will indeed Rest in Peace. 

The cemetery is a defined Christian denominational burial site as well as being a multi faith site and navigation is assigned section by section, endorsed as CE [Anglican - Church of England], RC [Roman Catholic], NC [Non Conformists]. See the overall plan below. 

Ian's grave is in section RC11 and is numbered as 971.  On this drawing, the size of the grave and thus its actual location is exaggerated to enable us to delineate the grave in words.

The grave stones in the cemetery are laid back-to-back mounted on a concrete plinth, facing the graves either side which are orientated in an east-west direction.  See below to the plan of the cemetery for the specific position of the grave.

We hope that you find this drawing useful when you visit to pay your respects.

The map is orientated with the entrance to the TOP of the picture with the large car park indicated by the reversed letter 'C' in the top left hand corner of Section CE23.

Click on the characters RC11 {shown in red} to see the position of Ian's grave in detail.

It is a dreadful coincidence that Ian's grave is next to a man also tragically killed when he was 37 and in a way, this for us heightened the pathos we experienced on reading the words on his tomb stone and envisaging the words which might be added to Ian's tomb stone.

Ian was buried on the 28th April 2011.  On the 19th May it was his 37th birthday.  On that day his family gathered around his grave and sang 'happy birthday' to him.  They brought cards, flowers and presents and all of these were in evidence at 9.30am on Monday the 23rd May when my wife and I called to pay our respects. On arrival at the grave, all was as we intended, that is, an empty graveyard in which we would have privacy except that a little distance away from where we parked our car [see above - on Road 2] on Road 3 behind us, were two more cars and two young women standing together. We hadn't been at Ian's grave for more than two minutes when one of the women approached us and said that she was Gill.  Immediately I recognised her and was acutely embarrassed that we had in effect, gate-crashed her privacy whilst keeping her mournful grieving vigil at the side of her husband's newly dug grave. It was our intention to leave the scene [and I know that my wife would have supported this action] but Gill, graciously considering our need to be there and not at all annoyed by our presence, actually welcomed us and thanked us for coming. We talked, even mentioning the forthcoming Crown Court case which is due to start in Winchester on the 10th June, and we were quite literally humbled by her strength and humility, whereas I, [and I dare not look into my wife's eyes for we are at one on this matter with a pragmatic empathy being submariners, understanding long separations and the bonds between submariners notwithstanding the time in which they served] was bordering on the overt emotional outburst, praying with all my heart that I would not let myself down, buoyed on by Gill's courage and dignity. Gill was with a friend, a close neighbour, and she had recently lost her partner, a Royal Marine in 40 Commando who was killed in Afghanistan.  Both were there tending their respective graves, both in RC11, both comforting one another, touchingly so, and whilst a wonderful thing to observe, it was profoundly heart wrenching and moving to observe.  The experience moved us both deeply and continues to do so. I asked Gill if she minded us taking a photograph of the grave in its pre-settlement condition, when Gill had already told us that the grave stone would be sited on fathers day in June - note: what might appear to be a tomb stone is in reality the back of the tomb stone of a grave ahead of Ian's as is the case for the blank tomb stone on the left of it.  She graciously gave us her permission, and that photograph is shown here. A further photograph will be added later of  the 'dressed' grave. Before leaving, I felt compelled to embrace Gill and to say God Bless to her, and this she responded to in her typical lady like spontaneous warm and friendly manner.  I have always been proud of my wife and the things she had to put up with being the wife of a submariner, and I am doubly proud of Gill.

The following three photographs were taken by Terry Hall, the Secretary of the Derbyshire Submariners Association on Friday the 16th September 2011

Below, enlarged so that the writing on the card can be read

Taken on the 5th November 2011. This was the original head stone before Ian had been awarded the George Medal by HM The Queen.

The picture below shows the newly engraved addition added to the head stone which reflects Ian's George Medal. The work was undertaken in early November 2013.

and new to the site is a beautiful crafted vase or plant-holder requiring no description

The picture below is original from day one when the head stone was first placed in position.

The two pictures below are the front and back of a laminated card which was inserted into Gill's 2011 Christmas card

See below for more Memorial Photographs to Ian's Memory


Gill dressed for the Palace to receive Ian's George Medal. Note
her submariners badge and her poppy of remembrance.

Gill dressed for the Commissioning of HM Submarine Ambush at Faslane.
Note her George Medal, submariners badge and her poppy of remembrance.

Gill with her children at the Mayor's Parlour, Wigan Town Hall
Alongside Gill left is Jamie and right is Aaron.  In front is Charlie and Bethy.

Gill wears her Elizabeth Cross for the first time after the Ceremony.
 


The Molly Rose.........

............and the signage for it.

Bethy at the entrance to The Molyneux Room at the Faslane Submarine Base

A keepsake in Memory of Ian. The engraving says
MOLYNEUX FAMILY
HMS ASTUTE
SPECIAL FRIENDSHIP

A Memorial Shield in Honour of Ian, an important sports artefact for the submarine throughout its long career yet to come. 

HM Submarine Astute's Football  team at the Barrow in Furness football pitch. Gill in front with Jamie to her right holding the Memorial Shield [see picture to the left] and Aaron on her left.

Ian's grave bedecked with flowers and a widow's wreath Christmas 2013

Gill's wreath Christmas 2013

The following photographs were taken of the Moly's in the week before they paid their homage for the third anniversary of Ian's death, c.2014


Gill with flowers for her HERO at the Submarine Museum Wall of remembrance

Jamie, Aaron, Bethany and Charlie at the Submarine Museum alongside the 'Alliance'
 
Jamie, Aaron, Bethany [pointing to her dad's name] and Charlie at the Submarine Museum Wall of Remembrance

The Moly's Cross of Remembrance at the National Arboretum

Aaron at the Arboretum

Jamie at the Arboretum
 
Bethany at the Arboretum

Charlie at the Arboretum

A proud young man growing up. Arron at a semi-formal do!

and a close-up of his tie with the coveted submariners badge.

Bethy, proudly gives a naval salute. Note her cap tally which says "T.S. MOLYNEUX GM"

Charlie's letter to his daddy. What is known as a.........well you all know what I Mean!

and here's the man himself just about to strike 8 bells meaning that it is 12pm [1200] and time for lunch!

A budding submarine WEO in the making at the embryonic
stage of his career. Jamie, at his Welbeck college having attended ceremonial division.
     

The renaming of the Wigan Training Ship and Sea Cadet Corps. The marks on the plaque are a reflection
of articles on the table on which the frame is standing.

A family to be proud of. Mum Gill is the President of T.S. Molyneux GM whilst Jamie [right], Arron [left] and Bethy are ratings of the ships company. Little Charlie can't wait to get some of the action other than ringing the bell of course.

A close-up of Jamie at Welbeck College. All he needs are stripes on his cuffs
and then there will be no stopping him!

Jamie flying in a Merlin helicopter, said to be the finest anti-submarine airframe in the world. A rare treat especially
in a very new machine.

Back in the Merlin, now with a view of the area being overflown. A good experience
for a future submarine officer.

Jamie settles into his cabin at Welbeck on day one.

Daunting? No, not for Jamie. Just a big building, that's all!

and mum nod's her approval for her sons new accommodation.  Hardly home from home, but it will do!

Wigan newspaper [self explanatory] with lovely picture of proud dad and eldest son.

and this time a proud mum!

Proud moment for son of hero submariner - 12th July 2016